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Mr.
X and Alcoholics Anonymous
by Rev. Dilworth Lupton
(Reprinted from
Clarence H Snyder Biography by Mitchell K)
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This
was a sermon preached on November 26, 1939 by Dilworth Lupton at the
First Unitarian Church (Universalist - Unitarian), Euclid at East 82 nd
Street, Cleveland,
Ohio.
Mr.
X was Clarence H. Snyder. This was one of the first pamphlets concerning
A.A. and was used by A.A. members in Cleveland in the late 1930's and
early 1940's.
Mr.
X and Alcoholics Anonymous
My
friend, Mr. X, is a young man with a family. For five years, to use his
own words, Mr. X did not "draw a sober breath." His
over-patient wife was about to sue him for divorce. Now
for over two years, he has not had a single drink. He maintains that his
"cure" is due to the efforts of a group of
"ex-drunks" (their own term) who call themselves Alcoholics
Anonymous.
I
have had several opportunities to meet members of Alcoholics Anonymous.
Not long ago I accepted an invitation from Mr. X to attend one of their
meetings, held in a private home.
They
are simple affairs: First a brief prayer, then four or five give public
testimony to their experiences, refreshments are served, and there is
general fellowship. They call themselves
religious, but I find no sign of excessive piety, sensationalism, or
fanaticism.
Furthermore
they have a sense of humor, somewhat of a rarity in religious circles.
They are not trying to make other people or the country into
"dries." They merely say, "We are the type that can't
take it, and we have found a way of leaving it alone."
In
my own home recently nine members of this group submitted themselves to
questions for four hours from a prominent physician and a psychiatrist.
Both were impressed by the trim
appearance, sincerity, manliness of the ex-victims, and by the seeming
efficacy of their methods. As the physician said to me privately,
"These boys have got something!"
Thank
God someone is throwing light on the problem of the chronic alcoholic, a
problem that has perplexed men for centuries. There may be a million
victims in the United States.
Chronic
alcoholism is not a vice but a disease. Its victims know that the habit
is exceedingly harmful - as one of them graphically expressed it to me,
"I was staring into a pine box" - but
they are driven toward drink by an uncontrollable desire, by what
psychologists call a compulsive psychosis.
Complete
abstinence appears the only way out, but except in rare cases that has
been impossible of attainment. Religion, psychiatry, and medicine have
been tried, but with only sporadic
success. The members of Alcoholics Anonymous, however, appear to have
found an answer, for they claim that at least fifty per cent of those
they interest have stopped drinking
completely.
From
conversations with my friend, Mr. X, and with members of the Cleveland
group, I am convinced that this success comes through the application of
four religious principles that are
as old as the Ten Commandments.
1.
The principle of spiritual dependence
Mr.
X, who had been drinking excessively for years, found that he couldn't
summon enough will power to stop even for a single day. Finally in
desperation he consented to a week of
hospital treatment. During this time he received frequent visits from
members of Alcoholics Anonymous. They told him that he must stop trying
to use his will and trust in a Power greater
than himself. Such trust had saved them from the abyss and could save
him. Believe or perish! Mr. X chose to believe. Within a few days he
lost all desire for alcohol.
Trust
in God seems to be the heart of the whole movement. Religion must be
more than a mere set of beliefs; it must be a profound inner experience,
faith in a Presence to which one may
go for strength in time of weakness.
This
fact is made quite clear in the book ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, which gives
the philosophy behind the movement and also the testimony of thirty of
those who have benefited.
Although
written by laymen it contains more psychological and religious
common-sense than one often reads in volumes by religious professionals.
The book is free from cant, from
archaic phraseology. It gives with skill and intelligence an inside view
of the alcohol problem and the technique through which these men have
found their freedom.
I
will let "Bill," one of the contributors to ALCOHOLICS
ANONYMOUS, describe his own experience. He had been drinking in his
kitchen - there was enough gin in the house to carry
him through that night and the next day. An old friend came to see him.
They had often been drunk together, but now he refused to drink! He had
"got religion." He talked for hours...it all
seemed impossible, and yet there he was, sober. But let me quote from
the book:
God
had done for him what he could not do for himself. His human will had
failed. Doctors had pronounced him incurable. Society was about to lock
him up. Like myself, he had
admitted complete defeat. Then he had, in effect, been raised from the
dead, suddenly taken from the scrap heap to a level of life better than
the best he had ever known!
Had
this power originated in him? Obviously it had not. There had been no
more power in him than there was in me at that moment, and this was none
at all.
That
floored me. It began to look as though religious people were right after
all. Here was something at work in a human heart which had done the
impossible. My ideas about
miracles were drastically revised right then. Never mind the musty past;
here sat a miracle directly across the kitchen table. He shouted great
tidings.*
*Alcoholics
Anonymous (New York, AAWS,
Inc., 1976), p. 11
How
hard is it for us moderns to concede - much less express it as our deep
conviction - that our inner lives ultimately are dependent upon a
power-not-ourselves. Such an attitude seems
weak and cowardly. But we go even farther; we suspect that faith in a
spiritual Presence outside ourselves is absurd.
Why
absurd? Our bodies are dependent ultimately upon the physical cosmos,
upon air and sunlight, and upon this strange planet that bears us up.
Why is it absurd then, to think of our
spiritual selves - our souls, psyches, call them what you will - as
being dependent upon a spiritual cosmos? Is it not absurd, rather to
conceive that the material side of us is part of a
material universe, but that our nature is isolated, alone, independent?
Is not such an attitude a kind of megalomania?
At
any rate these ex-alcoholics declare that only when they recognized
their spiritual dependence was their obsession broken.
2.
The principle of universality
In
our great museums one usually finds paintings covering several ages of
art, often brought together from widely separated localities - the
primitive, medieval and modern periods;
products of French, American, English, and Dutch masters; treasures from
China, Japan, and India. Yet as one looks at these productions he
instinctively feels that a universal beauty runs
through them all. Beauty knows no particular age or school. Beauty is
never exclusive and provincial; it is inclusive and universal.
So,
too, in the field of religion. We are beginning to recognize the
substantial unity of all religious faiths. Back of all religions is
religion itself. Religion appears in differing types, but they
are all expressions of one great impulse to live nobly and to adore the
highest.
This
universality of religion is recognized by the Alcoholics Anonymous.
Their meetings are attended by Catholics, Protestants, Jews,
near-agnostics, and near-atheists. There is the
utmost tolerance. It seems of no concern to the group with what
religious bodies non-church-going members eventually identify
themselves; indeed there is no pressure to join any church
whatever. What particularly impresses me is the fact that each
individual can conceive of the Power-not-himself in whatever terms he
pleases.
"Bill"
- the writer already quoted in ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS - makes this
tolerance clear when he further narrates his conversation with his
ex-alcoholic friend:
My
friend suggested what then seemed a novel idea. He said, 'Why don't
you choose your own conception of God?'
That
statement hit me hard. It melted the icy intellectual mountain in whose
shadow I had lived and shivered many years. I stood in the sunlight at
last.
It
was only a matter of being willing to believe in a power greater than
myself. Nothing more was required of me to make my beginning. I
saw that growth could start from that
point. Upon a foundation of complete willingness I might build what I
saw in my friend. Would I have it? Of course I would!*
*Alcoholics
Anonymous (New York, AAWS,
Inc., 1976), p. 12
Perhaps
these laymen in Alcoholics Anonymous are laying foundations for a new
universal movement in religion. Surely the conventional conceptions of
religion have been too narrow.
Religion,
itself, is far bigger and broader than we thought. It is something we
can no more capture through rigid dogmas than we can squeeze all the
sunshine in the world through one
window.
3.
The principle of mutual aid
Consider
again the case of Mr. X. When he was being hospitalized eighteen laymen
visitors called on him within the brief space of five days. These men
were willing to give their valuable
time in trying to help a man they had never seen before. To Mr. X they
related their own dramatic experiences in being saved from slavery to
alcohol, and offered their assistance. Upon
leaving the hospital Mr. X began attending the weekly meetings of
Alcoholics Anonymous. (editor's note- these were actually meetings of
the Oxford Group as Alcoholics Anonymous
was not officially named in 1938)
Before
long he was following the example of the men who had so generously given
him of their help. From what I know of the practices of these members of
Alcoholics Anonymous, I
feel quite confident that Mr. X this very day is using virtually every
hour of his spare time to assist other victims in getting on their feet.
As
he said to me recently, "Only an alcoholic can help an alcoholic.
If a victim of chronic alcoholism goes to a doctor, psychiatrist, or a
minister, he feels the listener cannot possibly
understand what it means to be afflicted with a compulsion psychosis.
But when he talks with an ex-alcoholic, who has probably been in a worse
fix than himself and has found the way
out, he immediately gains a confidence in himself that he hasn't had in
years. He says to himself in substance, 'If this fellow has been saved
from disaster I can be too'."
The
weekly meetings of the Alcoholics Anonymous operate on this same
principal of mutual aid. The ex-victims bolster up each other's morale
through comradeship. Like ship-wrecked
sailors on a raft headed for the shore, the bond that holds them
together is the same that they have escaped from a common peril. Upon
each newcomer is impressed the necessity of
helping other alcoholics obtain the freedom he has attained. They
believe they gain strength from expenditure - not expenditure of money,
of which most of them have but little, but of
themselves. Said one of them to me, "What I have is no good unless
I give it away." There are no dues, no fees, just the sheer
pleasure and, in this case, moral profit, that comes from
helping the other fellow. This mutual aid acts as a sort of endless
chain. Mr. A, Mr. B, and Mr. C help Mr. X out of the frightful mess hi
is in; then Mr. X turns around and helps Mr. Y and
Mr. Z. These in turn help other victims.
As
"Bill" writes in ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS:
My
wife and I abandoned ourselves with enthusiasm to the idea of helping
other alcoholics to a solution of their problems. It was fortunate, for
my old business associates remained
skeptical for a year and a half, during which I found little work. I was
not too well at the time, and was plagued by waves of self-pity and
resentment. This sometimes nearly drove me
back to drink. I soon found that when all other measures failed, work
with another alcoholic would save the day. Many times I have gone to my
old hospital in despair. On talking to a
man there, I would be amazingly uplifted and set on my feet. It is a
design for living that works in rough going.*
*
Alcoholics Anonymous (New
York, AAWS, Inc., 1976), p. 15
4.
The principle of transformation
During
the last half century many able psychologists have turned the
searchlight of their investigations on "religious experience."
It seems quite clear from these studies that religion
consists not primarily in the intellectual acceptance of certain
beliefs. It involves even more the transformation of human character.
Such transformations have taken place not only in the
lives of saints and religious leaders, but in the souls of multitudes of
common folk as well. It is a scientific fact that through religious
faith people are sometimes suddenly, and sometimes
gradually aroused to a new set of interests, are raised from lower to
higher levels of existence. Life and its duties take on new meaning, and
selfishness (half-conscious often) is displaced
by the conscious desire to help other people.
If
any human being needs such a transformation, it is the chronic
alcoholic. He may not be at the point where he is willing to admit that,
but his family and friends are! Alcoholism is a
sickness, to be sure, but it is unlike any other malady in certain
fundamental aspects. Compare for example, the case of the alcoholic with
that of a tubercular patient. Everybody is sorry
for the "T.B." and wants to help. He is surrounded by
friendliness and love. But in all likelihood, the alcoholic has made a
perfect hell of his home and has destroyed his friendships one by
one. He has drawn to himself not compassion and love, but
misunderstanding, resentment, and hate.
There
seems to be every evidence that the Alcoholics Anonymous group has been
amazingly successful in bringing about religious transformation. Note
how a doctor describes the effect
of this technique on one of his patients:
He
had lost everything worth while in his life and was only living, one
might say, to drink. He frankly admitted and believed that for him there
was no hope. Following the elimination
of alcohol, there was found to be no permanent brain injury. He accepted
the plan outlined in this book (ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS). One year later he
called to see me, and I
experienced a very strange sensation. I knew this man by name, and
partly recognized his features, but there all resemblance ended. From a
trembling, despairing, nervous wreck,
had emerged a man brimming over with self-reliance and contentment. I
talked with him for some time, but was not able to bring myself to feel
that I had known him before. To me
he was a stranger, and so he left me. More than three years have now
passed with no return to alcohol.*
*
Alcoholics Anonymous, "The
Doctor's Opinion" (New York, AAWS, Inc., 1976), p. xxix
Every
member of this movement declares that since he has come to believe in a
Power-greater-than-himself a revolutionary change has taken place in his
life; even his acquaintances note
a marked change. He has radically altered his attitudes and outlooks,
his habits of thought. In the face of despair and impending collapse, he
has gained a new sense of direction, new
power.
I have seen these things with my own eyes. They are convincing,
dramatic, moving.
One
final word to the members of Alcoholics Anonymous. Go back to your
synagogues and churches; they need you and you need them. Preserve your
principle of Universality, your
faith that all religion is one. Never allow yourselves to be absorbed by
any single church or sect. Keep your movement what you call it now, a
"layman's outfit." Avoid over-organization
for religious organizations always tend to follow the letter rather than
the spirit, finally crushing the spirit. Remember that early
Christianity was promoted not by highly involved
organization, but by the contagion of souls fired with enthusiasm for
their cause. And keep your sense of humor! So far you do not seem
afflicted with the curse of over-seriousness.
To
doctors and psychiatrists I would say; Be skeptical, investigate this
movement with an open mind. If you become convinced of their sincerity
and the efficacy of their methods, give
these men your approval and open support.
ALCOHOLICS
ANONYMOUS ought to have a wide reading by the general public. For one
thing the public ought to learn first hand that the chronic alcoholic is
suffering not from a
vice, but from a disease; that it is impossible for him to "drink
like a gentleman." Moderation for him is out of the question. For
him there is no such thing as the single drink. It is one
taste, and then the deluge.
Certainly
every victim of alcoholism and every friend of victims ought to buy or
borrow and read this book, then seek to get in touch with some member of
the movement. The writer of
this article will be glad to furnish addresses of the Cleveland leaders.
Or communicate with Alcoholics Anonymous, Box 658, Church Street Annex,
New York City.
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